Friday, October 30, 2009

Read With Her

Recently, my wife and I began reading books together. This has proved to be very enjoyable for the two of us. We like the quiet that it offers and we just get to listen to one another. We will often take turns reading so our throats don't start hurting. Instead of wasting away in a movie theater spending two hours sitting next to each other and not really interacting we, for the same price, can buy a book and spend well over two hours reading and learning about each other. Right now we are reading "The 5 Love Languages" by Dr. Gary Chapman, and it is a real joy for us.

More: Make sure that you choose a book that can help you two out. There doesn't need to be a problem in your relationship to read a book about strengthening marriages and relationships. This is often the problem in failed marriages, people waited for a big problem before they tried to work on their relationship.

Friday, August 14, 2009

Mail Her A Letter

With today's technology, it is easier than ever to send mass communications quickly and efficiently. Unfortunately, with this, romance has suffered. When was the last time that you wrote a letter to the one you love? If ever, I would venture to say it has been quite some time! Set some time aside, sit down, and write a loving and endearing letter to the one you love. Be sure to write as nicely as you can and use a pen. Make sure that you date the letter so that it can be looked back on in the future.

More Tips: Spray the letter with the cologne you wear. You can also add various little things in it like dried, pressed flowers, pictures, or anything else that might be meaningful to her. To really give the letter a nice presentation you can go to a local arts and crafts store, and in the wedding aisle you should be able to find a wax letter sealer and some wax. Get the stamp that has your last initial on it and a nice color, possibly her favorite color, wax to seal the letter with. This will make the letter much more memorable.

Sunday, July 19, 2009

Quit Defending

Most men, including myself, were brought up to defend ourselves. It is so ingrained in us to defend ourselves to our dying breath, and this is a flaw that we have. There are times where men will listen to their wives and if we try to be as objective as possible we can literally point things out like "Yep, right here I would be defending myself. Right here, I would've interrupted and defended myself." It is good that we can step out and see this, but that does not solve the problem.

The problem with defending ourselves is we tend to over compensate. We not only defend ourselves but we also may say things that are hurtful in the heat of the moment. It is important that we take a step back and look at the situation. What happened to make the situation transpire, and what is she saying that makes us feel the need to defend ourselves?

If you take a step back and listen to what is being said, it may not require a defense. There have been times where I was defending myself against helpful suggestions, because I was taking a suggestion as an attack on my character rather than looking at it objectively and trying to realize my wife's true intent. No one wins in an argument between a husband and wife, so quit defending yourself and listen. Discuss and make compromises, because the hurtful things that you may say in your defense will only make things worse.

Thursday, July 16, 2009

Thank Her

My wife does lots of things around the house, and lots of things for me. I do my best to thank her for everything. There are times that I forget, but I feel that I am pretty good about it. This is important because it shows that you are paying attention and appreciative. I know that the way my wife tries to show her appreciation for me is mostly through actions, and it is this reason that it is so important that I recognize what she is doing.

When she heats a frozen pizza, I thank her for it. She even will sometimes say things like "I didn't do anything" or "All I did was heat something up." It doesn't matter to me though, I thank her for it. I want her to know that she is appreciated no matter what she does. One way to think of it is that if she did not do it, then I would have. By that reasoning, not only did she make food for me, but she saved me the trouble of having to do it myself.

People express their affection in different ways. Some people do it by words, and other people do it by actions but no matter what they do, it should be acknowledged appropriately.

More Tips: Make sure that it is genuine. Really make her feel like you are taking some time away from what you are doing to thank her. You can either get up, give her a hug and thank her while hugging, or giver her a sentimental kiss. Either way, it will be far more special for her if you can take your eyes off of the paper work, the television, or the computer for a minute to acknowledge that you truly appreciate what she is doing.

Monday, July 6, 2009

Take Care of Yourself

Take a look in the mirror and be honest with yourself. Are you proud of what you see? Maybe you need to lose weight, maybe you need to put on deodorant, maybe you need to shave, maybe you need a haircut, maybe you need to put on some cologne, or maybe you need to just do your hair. This is not meant to be offensive or vein sounding, but there is always something that someone can do to improve their appearance, or presence.

We are not suggesting that you get self-conscious, but it is quite common in a marriage to stop doing certain things that someone used to do. Often this is referred to as "letting yourself go." It is terribly important that you do not fall victim to this. If you do, no big deal, the great thing about this is it can be fixed. Doing some of these little things shows that you care, and you want to impress the one you love.

You could be in the absolute best shape, but if you wreak of body odor then you will turn her off. It's amazing what some small changes can really accomplish. If you have a great body, and you smell amazing, then all bets are off.

More Tips: If you are a little over weight, don't worry about it. Working weight off is a slow committed process. Start working on the weight, but take into consideration some of the other ideas. Do your hair, put on a nice cologne, and dress in an outfit you know she'll find irresistible. Don't concentrate solely on the weight because that will not be an overnight fix.

Work on the weight honestly by eating right and exercising. For some immediate and impressive changes try changing your outfit, doing your hair, and putting on cologne. Don't believe the "get skinny quick" scams, the only way to lose honest weight is by working out and eating right.

Thursday, July 2, 2009

What's Her Favorite Flower?

Many men think they know everything there is to know about their wife. But how much do you really know? Do you know what her favorite flower is? Maybe you do, or maybe you are one of those guys that assumes her favorite flower is a red rose like every other woman. The truth is, most women appreciate the red rose for its symbolism, but few call it their favorite. Today, try and find out what your wife's favorite flower is. This will leave you knowing one more thing about your wife, and give you one more thing that you can surprise her with. The best part is, she will know that you are listening.

More Tips: Try and be inconspicuous when you are trying to find out what her favorite flower is, this will help to make it more special once you do surprise her with one.

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